How to get to know a girl better?

Talking to girls is one thing, but getting to know them takes a lot more effort! Learn how to have deeper conversations and feel more comfortable during those conversations and thus connect more permanently with the girls you talk to. You will get to know them much better.

1.Start by having many short conversations. Try to have many short conversations with the girl first, rather than one long talk. If you want to flirt and get a girl interested in you, try talking to her regularly.

  •     Talk to her in the hallways between classes, exchange a few sentences, and then just say "see you later.
  •     Always let the girl know that you will be back to her soon. This will let her know that you are thinking about her and you will both be thinking about each other.

2.Listen to her when she talks. One of the best ways to get a girl to open up is to simply listen to her. Focus on what she's saying and show your interest in what she's saying.

  •     Don't dominate the discussion. Ask a question instead of launching into a story. Look at her as she speaks and nod to show that you are paying attention to what she is saying.
  •     Once she's finished talking, summarize what she's just said and address her by name. This will let her know that you are giving her full attention.


3.Look her in the eye. Looking into the eyes of the person you're talking to is essential to a good conversation. To get to know a girl better, practice looking her in the eye when you're talking to her.

  •     If you find it difficult to look her in the eye and it makes you uncomfortable, practice. When watching TV, hold the actors' gaze for as long as possible or focus on a point on their face near their eyes, such as their nose or eyebrows.


4.To make this girl feel comfortable, smile. To get this girl to open up to you, make her feel comfortable by smiling at her. Even if you're nervous, in a serious mood, or madly in love with this girl, you'll need to relax and help her relax by smiling. When you are flirting with a girl, you will need to smile at all times.

  •     Even if you don't want to be more than just a friend to her, it's still a good idea to let her know that you enjoy talking to her and appreciate her presence. A smile is a great way to express this feeling.


5.Interpret her body language. When approaching someone, it's important to make sure you don't overwhelm them with all your questions. By learning to interpret your interviewer's body language, you will know if your presence is bothering her. If she doesn't seem to be receptive to your words, she will show some of the following signs and you should leave her alone:

  •     crossing her arms
  •     Frowning
  •     lowering her eyes and avoiding your gaze
  •     a confused face
  •     turning away from you
  •     very brief answers to your questions


6.Relax. If you are nervous every time you strike up a conversation with a girl, learn to calm down. Keep it as natural as possible. Keep it simple and to the point and keep the conversation short.

  •     A lot of times, you're probably nervous because you think you have nothing to say or are going to say something stupid. To remedy this, skip to the next section.


7.Ask questions instead of talking about yourself. Many people, especially boys, tend to talk about themselves too much. If you do this when you are nervous, try to change your behavior. Ask your date questions to get her to talk about herself. This will make you feel less stressed and give you the opportunity to learn more about her.

  •     Your questions should be intelligent, but not too heavy-handed. For example, you might ask, "What did you think of the chemistry test? Did you pass? "It would be awkward to immediately bring up a serious topic, such as religion.
  •     Ask open-ended questions. If you ask the girl, "How are you? "she'll be able to answer "fine" and you'll have a hard time bouncing back. Then ask her a specific question, which she will have to answer at length: "How is your volleyball season going?"

8.
Look for common ground. To start a conversation and get to know a girl better, look for something you have in common with her. This will help you gain her trust and make it easier for you to spend time with her. If you and the girl can talk about a particular topic on a regular basis, she'll know she can come to you when she wants to talk about that topic.

  •     If you and this girl are in the same class, you can always talk about classes. Talk about your grades, teachers you like or dislike, and other topics related to your classes. Also, try to study with her.
  •     Then you and this girl live in the same city and it will be easy to talk about what's going on there. Talk about places you go, local events and other such topics.


9.
Try to understand their sense of humor. It's much easier to talk to someone when you know what makes them laugh. Is she the sarcastic type? Does she like dark humor? Try to figure out what makes her laugh.

  •     Take a look at her Facebook page or other social network. What kinds of movies does she seem to like? What topics do they seem to be interested in?
  •     Be aware that in order to get to know a girl better, you'll need to avoid overly physical compliments or asking her if she hurt herself falling out of the sky. Cliche phrases, while they can be funny, are the worst way to start an interesting conversation. Unless you want her to laugh in your face, avoid this type of approach.


10.
Expand on what she says. Sometimes the second or third conversation you have with a girl will be much less fluid than the first. Once you've gone through the basic conversation topics, what could you possibly talk about? Learning how to expand will allow you to jumpstart a conversation.

  •     Ask her what she's been up to since the last time you saw each other. "How did your exam go? "or "Did you have a good weekend? "are good ways to start a conversation. You could even just say, "Hey, it's been a while! What's new since the last time? "
  •     If you've been talking about a movie, a band, or any other topic, find out a little bit about it and bring it up again next time. "I listened to that band you were talking about. I really liked their second album. What's your favorite track? "